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The 3 Step Breathing Space gives us a chance to step out of ‘autopilot’ and see what’s really going on. It allows a moment to pause when thoughts are threatening to spiral and provides room for a little reminder that every moment – good or bad- will pass.

The best thing about this is it can be done sitting down, standing up, jogging…wherever and whenever you like!

Imagine the shape of an hourglass; wide at the top, narrow in the middle and wide and the bottom. These 3 steps below follow that same pattern when focusing your awareness.

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 Wide Awareness – 1 min

Close your eyes (if you’re in a place this is possible) and ask yourself these three questions:

  • What am I thinking about right now?  

For me this can look like “I need to remember to call my gran… and book that table for tonight…but what if I can’t leave work on time …” etc.

  •  How am I feeling right now?

I’m talking adjectives here – “I’m feeling…stressed, excited, calm, afraid, angry…

  •  What physical sensations do I feel in my body right now?

With different emotions we experience different sensations in our body. Notice these –  where are they? how strong are they? Do they sting or throb? When under pressure and stressed I notice my stomach knot up and have a huge pulsing headache between my eyes.  Equally, when excited/anxious I feel jittery with a racing heart beat.

In this step you are opening your awareness to yourself, where you are right now and how you’re feeling.


 Focused Awareness – 1 min

Direct your full attention towards your breath by focusing on the physical sensations caused by breathing. Focus on the movement of your stomach, expanding out on each breath in and contracting on each breath out. This is a way to bring your attention to the present moment.

If you feel your mind wandering it’s OK,  just bring it back again to your breath and belly.

Note: Your mind is like your muscles- the more you exercise them at the gym the better you get at lifting heavier weights. Meditation is like a gym for the mind.  The more you do it the stronger and better your mind becomes at focusing.

This step is helpful in grounding your mind, bringing it back to the present.


Wide Awareness – 1 min

Imagine your outline and with each breath picture the air filling up to the edges, into your fingertips and right down to your toes.

When you are ready to bring the practice to a close keep expanding your awareness outwards beyond the body, notice your surroundings, become aware of the temperature, smells and sounds of your environment before opening your eyes.

This part allows you to feel a part of the present –  you have a place in the world, you are here, you are strong and ready to take on the rest of the day.

Let me know how you get on with the 3 Step Breathing Space and any anecdotes of any odd places you’ve found yourself practicing it in the comments below!





I’d never be the person that would describe myself as easily angered or one to hold a grudge.  As a self-confessed people-pleaser I tend to have a smiley persona, keen to encourage warmth and kindness from others as I expect back in return. I guess recently with moving to a new city,  I’ve become extra sensitive to noticing my surroundings and other people.

When I’ve taken time to watch the world with compassion in mind I’ve noticed a real quickness to berate others or get worked up openly and explosively.

Last week I had a pretty hectic, jaw-to-the-floor experience that prompted me to write a post on Metta Meditation, the Loving- Kindness practice.

It was cold, wet and gloomy last Wednesday and the day started off as usual. I got in my car and after checking my mirrors many times I pulled out of the drive. I did not, hands up, see a car pelting round a corner towards me. Thankfully there was no actual contact nor damage and all that was needed was a quick foot on the brake. What followed however was a woman storming out of her driver’s seat, raging up to my window to scream and call me every name under the sun.  It was a honest mistake and I was not expecting quite the onslaught of abuse.

Obviously this was quite unnerving and had I not been aware of the Three Step Breathing Space and Loving Kindness Meditation I probably would have got really upset at the confrontation. Instead however I felt so much empathy, something had obviously happened that day to make her fuse blow so quickly and she was so blinkered to other people’s worth. I almost wanted, weirdly, to hug her and give her a tea (?!) and tell her that it was OK so that she could get on with the rest of her day calmly without having had me mess it up.

Since this incident I have seen so much more of the same; overhearing people openly criticising others, yelling obscenities through their windscreen at pedestrians and having nasty temperaments with service staff. It seems even the smallest of mishaps are bringing about huge catastrophic reactions from others.

This seems like a whole lot of unnecessary stress where there a far more crazy things occurring than a person crossing the road too slowly.

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I’ve found the Loving-Kindness practice a great way to reduce my stress by becoming aware of others’ being and experience empathy and compassion for those who are not just the ones I love.

A little history on the who what where :

Loving-Kindness meditation came about because of the Buddha’s response to a group of monks who were scared. The monks had gone to a remote forest to meditate however when they got there, they started hearing strange noises, smelling terrible things and seeing scary spirits. They fled the forest and asked the Buddah for help.

The Buddha taught them Loving Kindness and told them to go back to the forest and develop Loving Kindness for these scary spirits. The monks returned to the forest and began to practice this meditation. Soon the spirits became as kind and friendly to the monks as the monks were being to the spirits. The monks stayed a long time in the forest, living peacefully with the spirits.

This meditation is now fronted By Emma Seppälä at Stanford University and has benefits of increasing our:

  • Compassion
  • empathy
  • social connections
  • emotional intelligence

It can even help curb our self-criticism and bias towards others.


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How-to: Loving-Kindness Meditation

I like to be seated whilst doing this 15 minute practice and to use a guided soundtrack. I like Emma’s here however do have a look on YouTube for your favourite.

In the practice you will give and receive loving kindness by silently repeating phrases whilst picturing yourself and others. The words are really lovely and uplifting and follow the lines of:  

“May you live with ease, may you be happy, may you be free from pain.”

“May your life be filled with happiness, health, and well-being.”

Listen to the 15 minute guide here.

Also , check out this Ted Talk from Emma Seppälä on how we can breathe for happiness!


I really hope you have a little chance to try Loving-Kindness and see how you feel after! I remember doing this for the first time on my 8-week course and we all felt it was a really freeing experience wishing compassion to even those who may have done us wrong.

Do share your experience below and let me know how you get on :)




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How often do you just eat? It sounds silly as we eat meals every day,  but how often do you just sit there and do nothing but eat?

While on a Mindfulness retreat I experienced a huge revelation in Mindful Eating. My food tasted better, I was fuller sooner and I absolutely loved every mouthful. This experience has really stuck with me and so I now try and incorporate mindful eating as much as possible with my meals.



  • Put your food on a plate – Eating out of a bag doesn’t help the practice, plus you can’t easily monitor how much you are actually eating
  • Sit at a table – Formalising the eating habit fill help focus attention on the intention to eat mindfully
  • Breathe and be thankful – Before digging in take a time for a mindful pause to breathe and feel gratitude for the processes that led to this moment
  • Eat in silence – Pop the TV off, hide your phone and put down that magazine or book. This helps draw our attention to what we are eating and enhances your experience
  • Tune in with all 5 senses – Notice the colours, aromas,textures, shapes and even sounds of your food
  • Chew more – Try to taste and identify all the different ingredients This is particularly fun at restaurants, when you didn’t make the food yourself. An added bonus is it may also help you become more creative in the kitchen.

Tip: Try making something really snazzy for your first experience, this will keep up your intrigue. I particularly like making a delicious healthy vegetarian salad like Pomegranate, quinoa, bulgar, feta, cucumber and lemon oil dressing for a colourful, zesty feast.


Becoming more in-tune with the foods we eat and being present has great effects on helping us eat more healthily and prevents over-indulging. When we notice what we eat we tend to eat less and enjoy our food more. This can be great for establishing a healthy diet and is even a tool for weight loss.

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I hope that putting the phone down, switching off the telly and shunning the magazine isn’t too daunting and you try this at home.  Let me know below if you try it and what you think!




Finding time for mindfulness can be really tricky when juggling a busy life full of work and social engagements and even trying to get around to food shopping.

We all know life can get quite hectic and with all stations constantly a’ go-go it’s really settling to know that you have a few quick and simple practices handy in your toolkit .

These five short, informal practices, are a great way to introduce mindfulness to your day. They are really easy to do and can be done from anywhere without too much extra scheduling.

Note: I wanted to put the practices alongside a ‘how-to’ in the same post but to avoid it being overwhelmingly mega I’ve separated the them so the ‘how-to’s’ are clickable if you’ve been inspired to try them out.

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MoisturiserMy evening getting ready for bed routine is something I really enjoy however never really pay that much focused attention to actually doing it. 

Moisturising mindfully is a great way to settle me ready for sleep whilst incorporating mindfulness into my routine. 


The 10 Steps to Moisturising Mindfully :

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  1. Pick up the pot/jar/tube- notice its weight, material and temperature in your hand.
  2. Carefully open the lid, noticing the the action of your wrist and any sounds
  3. Study your moisturiser in the pot (if in a pot), the peaks it forms, the way the light hits it and the colours.
  4. Pop some moisturiser on your finger, feel it’s coolness and weight.
  5. Rub between between your thumb and forefinger finger for texture and any tackiness.
  6. Lift up the moisturiser to your nose, with each in-breath notice any fragrance that may be there. What effect does the aroma have – is it energising or calming?
  7. If at any point you think “this is silly, why am I doing this?” recognise this as a random thought and return to where you left off with your moisturiser. Let go of any self- judgement, questioning or criticism.  
  8. Dot the moisturiser on your face, enjoy the coolness and feel on your cheeks, chin forehead and nose.
  9. Gently massage and savour the experience. Notice the movement of your fingertips and how your facial muscles relax.
  10. When fully applied notice how your skin feels- is it more sensitive to temperature, does it feel wet/ smooth/fresh etc ?



Have a field day and play around with the above steps however you like. Take as long or as short a time as you like.

Tip: Try this with various moisturisers e.g. day vs night moisturisers- you really start to notice and appreciate the differences between them.

I hope you enjoy – I always love to hear how you get on. Have you tried applying the above to any other mindful habits?